Periodically I will add posts here if the sources provide additioanl informaiton on how to think about and deal with Dementia/ Alzheimer's Disease.


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Even though this blog is now dormant (see info below) there are many useful, insightful posts. Scroll back from the end or forward from the beginning. My guess is that you could spend a lot of time here and maybe learn or experience a thing or two about living with and loving someone with Dementia/Alzheimer's or maybe come away with the feeling that "you are not alone" in YOUR work with the same!

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Happy New Year 2016. With a new year comes new beginnings and sometimes endings. If I am personally progressing and if I am doing a good job in my grieving Gregory's death; if I have been able to learn my lessons in living and loving someone diagnosed with Dementia/ Alzheimer's; if I am to get on with my life ... I need to bring this Alzheimer's blog to an end since my writing has been dealing less with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and more with life after Dementia/ Alzheimer's.

Of course, I will always continue to work for and support fair treatment on behalf of people with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and may post here from time to time. Also, there are many wonderful posts here through which you may browse.

With this change, I will continue and reinvigorate my "michael a. horvich writes" blog which deals with grieving Gregory's death, life lessons, personal experiences, observations, memoirs, dreams, and humor in essay and poetry, as well as an attempt now and then at sharing a piece of fiction.

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Saturday, October 10, 2015

The Sewing Box and The Sponge Bath

Hi Barbara,

Picking up his ashes yesterday was not as hard as I thought. Gregory is gently resting in the sewing box of his Grandma Carrie, his father’s mother. 

Gregory tells the story of how sorry he was that he was not able to see her when she died and was not able to go to her funeral because he was across the country at school.

He tells of their time together on overnight visits when he was a young boy, when they would sit on the font porch of her house, across the street and a little way down from the Goshen, Indiana court house. 

Gregory loved to play by the court house, walking up and down the grand stairs, and balancing his way around the building on the first floor parapet. 

They would watch the sun go down, and the cars go by, and talk of things. They would always have popcorn for dinner and oatmeal for breakfast. 

She was either poor enough or stingy enough (and probably a little crazy enough) to not bother wanting to light the water heater. She would boil a pot of water, let it cool down, and instruct Gregory how to take a “Navy Bath,” also known as a sponge bath. 

She would instruct Gregory saying, “First you wash as far up as possible, then you wash as far down as possible, then you wash possible.” 

I had ordered a bio-degradable box covered in handmade paper with dried fall leaves affixed to it. For me it was the best of the available choices (and there were many.) 

The night after making his arrangements with The Cremation Society of Illinois, I was sitting in the kitchen folding dusting rags (just realized the significance of “dust to dust”) and it came to me (might you say insight or might you say Gregory or Carrie whispering to me?) that I could use Grandma Carrie’s sewing box for Gregory’s ashes. 

And so the beautiful handmade paper box is now lovingly placed in Carrie’s sewing box and they are both resting peacefully. He loved her very much and is happy to know that his resting place, for now, is with her.

P.S. This will be today’s post that was written especially for you and Les.


  1. Keep trying. Life is still a lot of wonderful things await you.

  2. Thanks Julie. I know you are right and I already continue to enjoy it so much, just a little lonely without my love. Happy Thanksgiving.


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