FOR GREGORY

Periodically I will add posts here if the sources provide additioanl informaiton on how to think about and deal with Dementia/ Alzheimer's Disease.

PLEASE NOTE:


SCROLL DOWN FOR TEXT and BIBLIOGRAPHY from DAI WEBINAR 2/22-23/2017. You can also find this information on my website: www.horvich.com


Even though this blog is now dormant (see info below) there are many useful, insightful posts. Scroll back from the end or forward from the beginning. My guess is that you could spend a lot of time here and maybe learn or experience a thing or two about living with and loving someone with Dementia/Alzheimer's or maybe come away with the feeling that "you are not alone" in YOUR work with the same!


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THIS WAS THE FINAL POST TO THIS SITE BEFORE IT WENT DORMANT.


Happy New Year 2016. With a new year comes new beginnings and sometimes endings. If I am personally progressing and if I am doing a good job in my grieving Gregory's death; if I have been able to learn my lessons in living and loving someone diagnosed with Dementia/ Alzheimer's; if I am to get on with my life ... I need to bring this Alzheimer's blog to an end since my writing has been dealing less with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and more with life after Dementia/ Alzheimer's.


Of course, I will always continue to work for and support fair treatment on behalf of people with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and may post here from time to time. Also, there are many wonderful posts here through which you may browse.


With this change, I will continue and reinvigorate my "michael a. horvich writes" blog which deals with grieving Gregory's death, life lessons, personal experiences, observations, memoirs, dreams, and humor in essay and poetry, as well as an attempt now and then at sharing a piece of fiction.


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Thursday, October 15, 2015

A Dream

Gregory came to me in a dream for the first time last night. If you are uninterested in thinking about various interpretations of the meaning of dreams, scroll down to the photo of Gregory and continue.

Freud (1900) considered dreams to be the royal road to the unconscious as it is in dreams that the ego's defenses are lowered so that some of the repressed material comes through to awareness, albeit in distorted form. Dreams perform important functions for the unconscious mind and serve as valuable clues to how the unconscious mind operates.


According to Jung, dreams are a way of communicating and acquainting yourself with the unconscious. Dreams are not attempts to conceal your true feelings from the waking mind, but rather they are a window to your unconscious. They serve to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness and offer a solution to a problem you are facing in your waking life.


A different theory suggests that dreams are the result of our brains trying to interpret external stimuli during sleep. For example, the sound of the radio may be incorporated into the content of a dream.


Another theory uses a computer metaphor to account for dreams. According to this theory, dreams serve to 'clean up' clutter from the mind, much like clean-up operations in a computer, refreshing the mind to prepare for the next day.


Yet another model proposes that dreams function as a form of psychotherapy. In this theory, the dreamer is able to make connections between different thoughts and emotions in a safe environment.


A contemporary model of dreaming combines some elements of various theories. The activation of the brain creates loose connections between thoughts and ideas, which are then guided by the emotions of the dreamer .


*I would add the possibility of a spiritual connection to those whom we have loved who have died.



Now on to the dream:

I dreamed that I was watching Gregory writing something on a card. I remember thinking "Is he really going to try to write out that entire thing?"

He then began to staple the card to a small cork board propped against the wall. After he securely stapled the four corners of the card onto the board, he continued stapling in a line across the empty board like an automaton doll out of control. (Automaton: A mechanical device made to imitate a human being like in the movie "HUGO.")

I got angry and wanted him to stop stapling. I had a stick in my hand and was going to hit him on his back but I didn't want to hurt him so I poked him in his right temple.

The stick penetrated his head, in my mind through to the brain, and he stopped "dead" in his tracks. I was horrified. I had inadvertently killed him. I waited for the blood to begin spurting out but instead, I woke up.

At first I continued to be horrified but set myself to interpreting what and why I had dreamed. I immediately said out loud, "Gregory, you and I had better get more accomplished at communicating." And I laughed out loud. 

I could almost "see" what he was writing but could not remember. In thinking about it, maybe it was the poem by Friedrich Holderlin which I put on the back of Gregory's memory card and that was I passed out at his memorials.


Behold! The lovelier blue of heaven
is gathered in my friend's eye
and from his unclouded brow
beams highborn fidelity.

More brightly it is written here
than in gold upon our door;
Where good men love one another,
joy dwells ever and evermore!

I fell back asleep and when I awoke a few hours later I had a headache pain in my right temple (the same side where I poked Gregory.) Then I remembered that Gregory and I used to say; in relation to our love, our unspoken communication, and our constant awareness of each other even when apart, "I carry you in the upper right hand corner of my brain with love." Nice to re-remember that.

Dream Information taken from
http://psychology.about.com
http://www.dreammoods.com
http://www.simplypsychology.org

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