FOR GREGORY

Periodically I will add posts here if the sources provide additioanl informaiton on how to think about and deal with Dementia/ Alzheimer's Disease.

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SCROLL DOWN FOR TEXT and BIBLIOGRAPHY from DAI WEBINAR 2/22-23/2017. You can also find this information on my website: www.horvich.com


Even though this blog is now dormant (see info below) there are many useful, insightful posts. Scroll back from the end or forward from the beginning. My guess is that you could spend a lot of time here and maybe learn or experience a thing or two about living with and loving someone with Dementia/Alzheimer's or maybe come away with the feeling that "you are not alone" in YOUR work with the same!


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THIS WAS THE FINAL POST TO THIS SITE BEFORE IT WENT DORMANT.


Happy New Year 2016. With a new year comes new beginnings and sometimes endings. If I am personally progressing and if I am doing a good job in my grieving Gregory's death; if I have been able to learn my lessons in living and loving someone diagnosed with Dementia/ Alzheimer's; if I am to get on with my life ... I need to bring this Alzheimer's blog to an end since my writing has been dealing less with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and more with life after Dementia/ Alzheimer's.


Of course, I will always continue to work for and support fair treatment on behalf of people with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and may post here from time to time. Also, there are many wonderful posts here through which you may browse.


With this change, I will continue and reinvigorate my "michael a. horvich writes" blog which deals with grieving Gregory's death, life lessons, personal experiences, observations, memoirs, dreams, and humor in essay and poetry, as well as an attempt now and then at sharing a piece of fiction.


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Thursday, October 8, 2015

Another Milestone

Another milestone passed today as Gregory's body was cremated. Depressing. Morbid. Macabre. Frightening. Surreal. Sad. But these negatives are supplanted with JOY when you think that his earthly body was currently the home of Dementia/Alzheimer's and all that the disease brings. Now he is free.

Now that his body is no longer his address and after 67 years of serving him well (minus a few for Dementia/ Alzheimer's) his body is reduced to its essence and if the remaining carbon was put under great pressure, he would become another version of the bright, shining diamond which he was throughout his life.

Although he never complained and settled in at Lieberman in his usual calm, confident way; he no longer has to face being confined to a wheelchair, his newly acquired narrow life, shitting and peeing himself, not being able to feed himself, to frustration and confusion (although dampened by Rxsperadol,) not being able to communicate and often not being able to understand. He no longer needs to deal with reduced mental, physical, emotional, and cognitive abilities. He is free to fly and to dance.

That is not to say (especially reminded when looking at photographs of him) that his days with Dementia/Alzheimer's were also not filled with love and joy for him and for those who love him. Even in his reduced state he kept his sense of humor and gave freely of his love and smiles to others around him, including no only me but also family and friends and his fellow residents.

So we reach a new milestone in Gregory's life. His moving on to the next adventure: whatever, wherever, and however that may be. I believe that there is something greater then here. Just because I cannot see it, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Just because I cannot prove it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. What I also know is that I cannot prove that is doesn't exist, so I will err on the side of "he is in a better place."

2 comments:

  1. From diamonds to diamonds. I like that thought <3

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  2. Thanks Susan. Gregory and I are released. He would always say of someone who died, "They have found their way out. We are still looking for ours." I am released but still looking.

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