FOR GREGORY

Periodically I will add posts here if the sources provide additioanl informaiton on how to think about and deal with Dementia/ Alzheimer's Disease.

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SCROLL DOWN FOR TEXT and BIBLIOGRAPHY from DAI WEBINAR 2/22-23/2017. You can also find this information on my website: www.horvich.com


Even though this blog is now dormant (see info below) there are many useful, insightful posts. Scroll back from the end or forward from the beginning. My guess is that you could spend a lot of time here and maybe learn or experience a thing or two about living with and loving someone with Dementia/Alzheimer's or maybe come away with the feeling that "you are not alone" in YOUR work with the same!


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THIS WAS THE FINAL POST TO THIS SITE BEFORE IT WENT DORMANT.


Happy New Year 2016. With a new year comes new beginnings and sometimes endings. If I am personally progressing and if I am doing a good job in my grieving Gregory's death; if I have been able to learn my lessons in living and loving someone diagnosed with Dementia/ Alzheimer's; if I am to get on with my life ... I need to bring this Alzheimer's blog to an end since my writing has been dealing less with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and more with life after Dementia/ Alzheimer's.


Of course, I will always continue to work for and support fair treatment on behalf of people with Dementia/ Alzheimer's and may post here from time to time. Also, there are many wonderful posts here through which you may browse.


With this change, I will continue and reinvigorate my "michael a. horvich writes" blog which deals with grieving Gregory's death, life lessons, personal experiences, observations, memoirs, dreams, and humor in essay and poetry, as well as an attempt now and then at sharing a piece of fiction.


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Wednesday, August 26, 2015

My blogger friend Kate's husband was quoted recently on her blog Click to see Kate's Blog (opens in a new window)

Worrying is part of the territory… But don’t take your worry away,              by taking their life away.
  (Peter Watt, 2015)

My reply follows: Wow Kate. You tell it like it is and you are on target. I would let Gregory go on walks alone. People would ask, "Don't you worry about him getting lost." And I would reply, "Of course, I worry. I love him don't I?" 

But my resolve was to let him go on his walks until one day he was brought home, lost, by the police. I also had "mapping" put on his cell phone (like parents can do for their teens) and always made sure before he left that it was in his pocket and turned on. 

On the other hand, he and I decided together that he would stop driving because that would endanger no only him but others. And besides we love being together so much and I never minded being the "designated driver" like he used to do for me when we went to parties and I got to drink:-) He never took "giving up driving" as a loss of his masculinity as so many men do. 

In the long run, Gregory's decline, when well into the tenth year after his diagnosis, was so dramatic during the last year, then the last month, then the last week ... that many of the things I worried about never happened. That convinced me that worrying is not worth the energy. TRYING to not worry expends unnecessary energy as well.  

Do what you can in preparation for the future, research your alternatives, act intelligently and wisely ... but do not worry. Serves no purpose.

Instead of "worrying" Gregory and I decided to put our faith in knowing that we would know what to do when the time came. And we did, and even though we would not have ordered it this way, things are turning out well.

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