FOR GREGORY. He was not a VICTIM of ALZHEIMER'S DISEASE, he was a HERO!

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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Why is it?

Why is it that I still have expectatons? Why is it that I still think he can learn? Why is it that I am surprised when he doesn't make connections? Why is it that I still ask him to do things to help me? Why is it that I still reason with him. Why is it that I still discuss things with him? Why is it that I still get angry and frustrated with him?

I guess because it is a measure of my respect for the person he was and is. Should I treat him like an idiot? Should I treat him like a child? Should I treat him as though he doesn't exist, or matter, or have emotions? I don't think I could do that.

So I just have to remind myself that when he doesn't meet my expectations, when he can't learn, when he can't make connections, when he can't help, when he can't be reasoned with ... I need to not get angry or frustrated ... just be patient and compassionate. The choice is mine.
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  1. Linda Lewis Egel MayorApril 9, 2011 at 6:07 AM

    I think that you and Greg are so lucky to have each other....and the way you are handling all of this is so remarkable and so loving.

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