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Saturday, January 31, 2015

Letter to a Friend

A friend has just made the difficult decision to find a placement for her mom who is dealing with advanced dementia.

My offer stands and if you don't get to Evanston I could meet you downtown your place of work. Your decision to have mom move to a new living situation is a good although difficult one. Difficult especially since she doesn't seem to like the idea.

One suggestion, if she is able, let her make some of the decisions like what furniture, photos, decorations etc to take and how to arrange her new space. I have found that while Gregory was not "hostile" to the new surroundings, he has come to enjoy his new room and home.

The activity going on around him, even though he cannot always fully participate, the good food, and new friends have helped him remain happy and calm. It is touching to see Gregory and Martha carrying on a conversation at dinner. They they both are enjoying it immensely but anyone listening realize that what they are saying makes no sense to others but G and M are having a great time.

Also, by his being in a safe, loving environment, the time I spend with him is free from all frustration, anger, fear, and exhaustion. I actually enjoy visiting him and the other residents have become part of my extended family. Lets get together and chat if you would like.

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