Response to "A New Observation"

This response arrived in my e-mail from my niece C.M. 

The enabler in me says phuck it and just do everything for him to make the most stress free environment possible.  But then the other side of that coin is the new stress it puts on you to do yet even more than you already do. But then it would be eliminating a different kind of stress so maybe there would be balance in that scenario.   It seems to me during our last visit that more and more, Greg welcomes decisions being made for him. 

Sometimes.  Never.  Usually.  Whatever. Love you more. 

 This was my response to her response:


Loved (and appreciate) your response. You were able to cast a lighter "air" to it, which was greatly appreciated. In some ways you are right. What you don't witness is that he still wants to be vital, do things for himself, thinks he knows what he is doing, needs a level of independence and self respect. I cannot take that away from him which is what causes the dilemma in the first place. 


I seem to remember an observation scale from my education days that went like this: NEVER, SELDOM, ONCE IN A WHILE, SOMETIMES. OFTEN. USUALLY. ALWAYS. And then that can be applied to "Ability to do something." and "Inability to do something." This is what makes Alzheimer's Disease (and any Dementia) so insidious.


Sometimes. Never. Usually. Whatever. Not possible:•) WHIMSICAL